Recently it came into the news that Heidi Klum and Seal were getting divorced. I was pretty sad since I always root for the celebrity marriages because they always seem doomed. That is, I was sad until I read their reason that was cited for the divorce. "We have just grown apart." If I were a swearing person I would say something else, but since I am not I will just say THAT ISN'T A GOOD ENOUGH EXCUSE! People, WAKE UP! Being married takes work, yes, WORK. One of my favorite books that I read and re-read says that if we had the same mindset of our marriage as we do the other aspects of our lives then our introductions should include "Hi, I'm Valerie, I'm a music therapist and a full-time mom, and I work hard at my marriage."
Reed and I have had several rough patches in our marriage and although the idea of divorce has crossed my mind in those crises, I always come back to the fact that I didn't get married to get divorced and I am better off with him than without him. If I feel like we're growing apart than I need to take responsibility for my part in our marriage. It's nobody else's job. I am committed to our marriage and I know Reed is too.
On a side note, everyone should read All You Need is Love and Other Lies About Marriage.
